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Oct 30, 2022Liked by Farrah @Substack

Really lovely read, and a message so many of us need reminding of. I love that changing our brains, learning new things and creating new neural pathways can happen at any age, any stage, we just get lazy and don't bother trying sometimes. But when we do try, it is so worthwhile and rewarding. Sometimes the further out of our comfort zones, the more there is to learn and bigger satisfaction afterwards. Thanks Farrah

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Oct 30, 2022Liked by Farrah @Substack

So lovely!

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Oct 30, 2022Liked by Farrah @Substack

Love this and miss you already, Farrah ❤️

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Lovely piece! À très vite j’espère !

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Oct 30, 2022Liked by Farrah @Substack

Its crazy what words can do, loved it and felt your energy all from New York until here in my living room🌟

Beautiful, looking forward to reading more next week🌸💗

Have a wonderful Sunday 💕

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Oct 30, 2022Liked by Farrah @Substack

Really enjoyed, glad you had a good time ❤️

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Oct 31, 2022Liked by Farrah @Substack

I made a pretty big change recently, also when I was right about to turn 43, and can relate to much of this article (professionally and pop culture!) Sometimes I have to remind myself this is a big deal.

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Really needed this, at this very time - thank you!

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Love this article. Gave me some clarity and appreciation for making changes as an over 40 year old. Thanks for the reminded that things take time.❤️

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Great piece Farrah! First time listening as a paid subscriber rather than reading and was a lovely 10 mins on my commute 😊

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This is so spot on. When I was growing up in 1970's and 1980's Belfast, all I wanted to be was Kate Adie. Not so much the khaki shorts, but the storytelling - and the adventure. I spent the first part of my career then working in the non-profit sector, including Deputy Director of UNICEF Ireland where I had the privilege of working in Iraq, Sierra Leone and Zambia among others. Then I did the husband, house and pregnancy test (all in 9 months) and spent the next 10 years with my head barrelled down in survival mode trying for babies, having babies. losing babies. raising babies, caring for my mum after a stroke, single parenting after my marriage ended and woke up at 45 wondering what the fuck had happened to my life. Jigs and the reels I went back to college to study psychology and now work as The Midlife Coach because exactly as you say, this is the perfect time for women to step into their own light. My whole career is different (although it has always really been about helping people tell their stories). I see so many amazing women decide this is their time. And you're right that we don't have to go all Eat, Pray, Love (I"m keeping that for my 60's!) but spend a beat to really think about who we are and what we want. I can't find a way to message you privately, but if you would be interested, I'd love to send you a copy of my latest book - Midlife, redefined: Better, Bolder, Brighter which is a self-guided book with each chapter ending with a coaching tool or reflection exercise so by the end you end up with your own bespoke midlife (wo)manual . You can see it here at www.themidlifecoach.org/midliferedefined. - anyway let me know if you're interested and I'll send you a copy. (also need to set up a Substack site but a bit like you with the google apps question, I keep putting it off in case it's all too techy.. but I'll do it soon. Anyway, great article

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Loved this! Makes me want to go to NYC (never been) but also makes me think of my peers at uni (I’ve just gone back to school) who are your age and even older. So in awe of them and we each have something new to bring. It does take courage to pivot later in life but I already think it’s often the only way 🙂

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Love this. I always think of the bends in the road like tributaries. I keep thinking I've hit the river of what I'm going to Do With My Life, but realise these paths are really a series of tributaries, sort of melding together and carrying me on to the next thing.

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so good Farrah - midlife reinvention is where it is at! And you are right about how humbling it is and how we need to learn new things and new behaviours - but that is what makes you feel alive again, right? It's what we did as students and at work before we became the bosses.. makes everything feel exciting being back at the beginning! And very satisfying as you begin to take off your stabilisers and learnt to ride a new bike.. particularly mastering the technology!

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Totally agree Eleanor - does this make me a Queenager?

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Oct 30, 2022Liked by Farrah @Substack

Brilliant read Farrah. I too queued in harrods for Krispy Kremes with a friend and felt like we had bagged the best donuts ever on our train home to Dorset!

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Wonderful as ever (and relate to some of this, believe it or not!). Also enjoyed the Lucas G. cameo!!!

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I love that you know this was Lucas G.

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